I am pretty certain no one enters into a marriage thinking that they will one day cheat on their spouse. We marry for better or worse, richer, or poorer, in sickness and health vowing to uphold the union under God. However when infidelity enters into the mix, which it way to often does, the vows are tossed out the window. Yes infidelity, is devastating, shocking, embarrassing causing much pain, shame and anger for all involved. Can a marriage survive and thrive after infidelity? I can’t say I have all the answers to that. What I do know is that growing up in a church environment, I was taught that infidelity was wrong and that it was the death of marriage.  I watched couples divorce because of these assumptions. I heard church members gossip passing judgement on the “cheater”.  I watched as spouses filed for divorce out of embarrassment to save face within the community. I too, grew to “hate” the cheater thinking the family would be better off without them and vowed to divorce my future mate if they ever cheated on me. Thankfully God has moved me into a new awareness on the human condition. I no longer have judgement surrounding infidelity. Yes, in God’s eyes it is a sin but so is lying, gossiping and passing judgement. All sin is equal in God’s eyes. We nor the church have no right to determine one sin is worse than another! If we really believe what the bible says, we must understand that God works all things out for each persons highest good. God is interested in the evolution of the soul. Infidelity is a by-product of a sick and aching soul. We do not condemn sickness of the body so we must not condemn sickness of the soul either.  God uses our free will choices and the consequences of those choices to purify and elevate the soul. Infidelity is a mighty and powerful purifier for all persons involved. Can a marriage survive and thrive after infidelity? I believe the answer to that is found in Hosea 3:1 The Lord said to me, “Go show your love to your wife again, though she is loved by another man and is an adulteress. Love her as the Lord loves the Israelites, though they turn to other gods and love the sacred raisin cakes”


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